by Kathy Carmichael
Reader’s Group Discussion
- Jill uses sticky notes to make summarize her life to date. If you had to make a summation of your life to date, what five items would your sticky notes include?
- Taking a survey is a great way to find out what people think. Sometimes the writer of the survey can unconsciously skew results to reflect her own feelings. Did Jill think her questions through enough? Did she take the results of her survey too literally? What did you think of the conclusions Jill drew about her survey responses?
- If you were to write Jill giving her marital advice, what would you recommend?
- The happily married women who filled out Jill’s survey rated the items they thought helped their marriages. Is there any one thing you believe makes a marriage last?
- If you were to make a checklist of important qualities in a husband, what qualities would you include? Would the list change after you’d been married for some time? Just for fun, fill in Jill’s survey. Did you learn something about yourself or your mate?
- Jill handles her son’s relationship with her former husband unusually well, even though it’s a sticky situation. In what ways did she handle it well? In what ways could she have done better?
- As Jill prepares for a date, she answers the door wearing a T-shirt, a plastic bag over her hair, hot pink toe separators to protect her pedicure, and a green facial mask. She’s totally embarrassed. Has something like that ever happened to you? What is your most humiliating moment?
- After Jill’s breakup, she was determined to get her frying pan back from her ex-boyfriend. Was it worth the effort she went through to get it back? Did you ever have a breakup in which you obsessed over something? If so, what was it?
- Jill’s frying pan was a symbol of her emotional growth. In what ways did she grow during the course of the story?
- Jill’s mother was anxious to see her daughter safely remarried and wanted to find Jill a husband. Did anyone ever try to set you up on dates? Have you ever played matchmaker? What happened?
- Throughout the story, Jill had a number of disastrous dates. What are some of your dating disasters? What is your worst date ever?
- Jill’s group of friends is very important to her and each relates to her in different ways. Who are your dearest friends? How are your friends part of your support system?
- In addition to themes regarding friendship and dating, did you notice any other themes in Hot Flash? What do you think they are?
- Jill began going through pre-menopause during the course of the story. Can you relate to her hormonal changes? Have you ever had a hot flash? If so, how would you describe it?
- Readers have said they laughed out loud while reading Hot Flash. What were some of your favorite scenes in the book? What are some of the funniest things that have happened in your life? Would they make for a good book?